Life is Perfect

In our lives, everything is perfect, just as it is.
Last month, I mused on the perils of perfection and urged readers to focus instead on progress. This month I have a few things to say about how life is perfect, exactly the way it is. Especially when we want it to be different. Many of us are in some kind of transition, dealing with challenges and surprises that aren’t what we had wished for. Our lives feel out of control and far from perfect. My suggestion is this: everything is perfect, exactly the way it is. It’s perfect because it presents us with opportunities to learn and grow. It’s perfect because it sets the stage for something better.

Perhaps you didn’t get that promotion because something better is on its way. Or the new role would have been a terrible fit for you. Or there are still some cool lessons to learn in your present role. Or it’s time for you to leave the organization and strike out on your own. Or you would be better devoting the time and space afforded in your current role to personal priorities. You get the idea.

perfectly wierdThink back on a previous time in your life when things were messy or unhappy or you were somehow dissatisfied. When something happened that you would have preferred to avoid. What were the gifts in that event? How did everything turn out for the best?

Hindsight often shows us that what we wished for was not nearly as good as what eventually transpired. This translates to everything happens for a reason. Or, put another way, we make plans and the universe laughs.

When you realize just how perfect everything is, you will tilt your head back and laugh at the sky! Buddha

perfect tiltThink of something in your life that isn’t the way you want it to be, that doesn’t fit with your idea of how your life should be. Now, consider how this something might actually be perfect. What is it teaching you? What lessons are you learning, perhaps for the first time or perhaps again (and again and again)? If the answers aren’t clear right away, give your self some time to percolate the questions. Breathe into them, live into them and see what happens.

screws upThe next time you feel disappointed in something, see if you can use the question, how is this perfect? This reflection can help you to move away from how things should be toward acceptance of how things are. Acceptance is a much more peaceful and effective foundation for life.

In fact, acceptance is perfect.

Resource

Pema Chodron is a wonderful resource for many reasons. She often writes about acceptance of life just as it is. About seeing the perfection in the present moment. I recommend pretty much anything by her. You might start with When Things Fall Apart.

If we learn to open our hearts, anyone,
including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher. Pema Chodron

Invitation

Imagine that it is ten years from now. Looking back, how will you know that Life at this moment in your recovery was actually perfect?